you know, I consider myself a fairly intelligent person. that said, sometimes it takes me a long time to figure things out. I dunno why, it just does.
we sent dd and ds to stay with their Grandma saturday night, and went to pick them up yesterday. when we were leaving, DH asked her, about half joking, if she would like to take them again next saturday. in a nutshell she said no. I finally realized that ever since mom died, I have been looking for someone to love my kids as much as she did. or I guess not necessarily love them, but just want to be with them. I guess that maybe it wasn't exactly normal..mom didn't have anything else to do really, but the remaining G-P's just aren't...well..her. she always wanted to be with DD. now, MIL, well I don't know if she really likes having them or not. I think she keeps them because she feels like she should want to, but she doesn't really. she and SIL (and god don't get me started on her..) watched them for a week after mom died, and when we were taking them home, MIL cried having to give them up, but them she doesn't really seem to care. she is hard to read. SIL gets in arguments with a three year old and calls her a brat. Staying with the other GP's is always a gamble cause she comes back with all sorts of interesting knowledge. they just have too many kids in that house, too much drama and not enough supervision.
I took for granted that mom always wanted to spend time with DD. Now neither of my children will have a grandparent like that.
this sucks